Beauty is Confidence.. Confidence is Beauty

Part-I 

Ananya and Kinshuk were sitting on the ground with folded legs, pulling up the grass, looking at the sky, day dreaming, looking at each other, smiling.. Sometimes, silence mesmerizes you, for memories captivate your thoughts..

And, Kinshuk said..

"Anu, you know, that was the place where I saw you for the first time, the coffee shop.."

"Yeah, and I also remember the conversation we had, word-by-word.. It was hilarious.. The first thing that I had noticed about you was your sense of humor"

"I know! I know! All girls are mad about my sense of humor! Nothing new!"

"Shut up!"

"Hey Anu! I can have a bet that you've no clue about the first thing that I had noticed about you! "

"Oh..Really! What was it? Lemme guess! Must be my simplicity!"

"Well, I admire your simplicity..I feel that its something that defines you..But that's not the right answer to my question.."

"What was it Kinshi? Tell me now! At least give me a hint!"

"Ohk..It is something that everyone must have noticed about you, just like your simplicity!"

"You were right! I'm not getting what you're talking about! What was it? I wanna know..I'm curious now"

" When I saw you for the first time, I noticed that there was something amazing about your face, and that was your confidence..the confidence that I see whenever I look into your eyes, that makes you look so beautiful, that makes everything perfect for you, for me, for us..that drives me crazy about this crazy girl called Ananya Verma! "

"You render me speechless, Kinshuk Sarkar.. I dunno what to say!"

And the two pairs of eyes met again.. The silence was much more enthralling now..

Ananya could not stop thinking about those words..People around her always admired her confidence..She was not only invincibly sanguine, but also a girl who preached about self-love and self-belief, a girl who was an inspiration for those who do not love themselves..But then, she kept asking herself, "Is it Kinshi's love for me that makes him feel so or is it actually my confidence that makes me look beautiful? What exactly makes a girl, a woman, beautiful?"

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Part-II

With the last line of the fictitious conversation, commences the real blog.. What exactly makes a girl, a woman beautiful?

If you talk of a body with perfect curves, a flawless figure, the word is not beautiful, the word is hot or sexy.. If you talk of a sweet smile, chubby cheeks, the word is not beautiful, the word is bubbly or cute..
If you talk of great dressing sense with perfect accessories, the word is smart or stylish..
If you talk of make up and hair styling, the word is pretty..
However, all these women might be beautiful, but these aren't answers to the question, what exactly makes a girl, a woman beautiful? 

When a girl child asks endless cute questions from her father, its her innocence that makes her beautiful..

When a girl says to her best friend, "Don't worry, I'll take care of everything..Smile now!".. its her care that makes her beautiful..

When a girl falls in love, its the ecstasy and magic of love that makes her beautiful..

When a woman gives birth to a baby and takes him in her hands for the first time, it makes her feel that her child completes her, and perhaps, this feeling makes her beautiful..

When a woman makes sacrifices and compromises for her family, and even then, she smiles, its her selflessness that makes her beautiful..

Its her courage, her benevolence, her tolerance, her strength that makes her beautiful..

If you ask me to define beauty.. I really cannot do that, for beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.. but I do know that, in some way or the other, every girl is beautiful, every woman is adorable..

Part- III 

This blog is not about physical appearance vs inner beauty..The reason why I'm writing this post is that some women have actually lost their confidence, the eternal beauty, for they desperately wish to be "physically appealing"..

Yes, I feel pity for those girls who suffer from an inferiority complex, who envy the ones who look better than them.. At the same time, I feel that the ones who live with vanity and narcissism are merely arrogant fools, for physical appeal is always short-lived, unlike self-confidence.. No matter how great you look, if you feel disappointed when you receive less facebook comments and likes on your pictures, if your confidence level is dependent on the number of compliments you receive, if you like to dress up like what others expect, rather than the way you like to see yourself, I pity you ! Above all, I pity girls who have lost their confidence after a guy dumped them for a so-called hot chick, for beauty is not about what he thinks or he likes, its about what you feel about yourself.. 

You may go to a parlor for make up, you may go to a gym for weight loss, you may feel great when you receive compliments, you may try endless beauty products and beauty treatments, you may have a complete makeover, but nothing at all can inculcate the confidence in you, the way you yourself can.. And confidence is something that adds on to your beauty like nothing else does..

Confidence is the first postulate of what we call style..You cannot be a stylish person if you follow what others do, a style statement is something that uniquely identifies you!

With your head held up high, with perfect optimism and self-belief in your mind and heart, being confident about who you are, what you are and what you can do, is the secret to eternal beauty..Yes, there is no beauty that is attractive without confidence..

When you feel confident, you are not only more beautiful, but also you radiate the beauty, you make the whole world around you beautiful.. You mesmerize, you influence, you shine, you rule!

So, always smile and make the whole world smile with you!
Cheers !!!

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Love Yourself !!

You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.

- Buddha

This is, perhaps, one of the most popular quotes I've ever read..The reason why I quoted this, before starting with the blog, is the fact that I always found it kinda obvious, something that goes without saying..Every individual does love himself..Why did Buddha have to preach that after all?

Mother Teresa had said, "There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread" .. Absolutely true, but we all talk of seeking love from others, loving others, caring for others, and we often tend to forget how important loving ourselves is..
How can you expect others to love you when you don't even love yourself? How can you even think of making someone happy when you aren't happy being the person you are? How can you love others when you cannot even love yourself? How can you think of achieving something when you keep on blaming your luck?

I have seen many people who tend to avoid the whole world when they are sad..They do not even talk to the closest of their friends who wish to listen to them and help them out.. No, they do not have any intentions to disrespect or ignore people who care for them..but it is the lack of "self-love" in them, that makes it difficult for them to accept love, care and affection by others..They feel guilty, they start despising themselves, they feel that they do not deserve all those who care so much for them, they start avoiding them again and the cycle continues..

Everyone says, "The first postulate of love is sacrifice" .. I disagree.. The first postulate of love is "acceptance"... You cannot love a person unless you accept him for who he really is.. If you keep on searching for perfection, if you keep on searching for qualities, you won't ever find true love..
In the same way, you can't love yourself unless you accept yourself as a person..We often feel jealous of others..We often wish to be popular, we often seek attention..Many of us suffer from inferiority complex.. And sometimes, while trying to impress others, we stop being who we are, we tend to change ourselves, not because we want those changes, but because we think of becoming a more lovable and likable person in someone else's eyes.. Once again, we forget self-acceptance, self-love and self-respect !

I always say that I believe that I am an awesome person and I love myself the way I am.. A friend had once said to me, "Saying that 'I'm crazy, I'm awesome' again and again does not mean that you are happy..It rather means that you are so hollow a person that you are filling it on your own in a futile attempt to be happier"

For all those people who feel that his words hold true, I wish to say that saying that I'm awesome does not mean that I feel I'm a perfect person..There are endless flaws in me..I know that I act hopelessly dumb at times, I am brutally blunt, honest and straightforward and often speak without thinking.. I have that irritating habit of getting into the minutest details of every damn topic while I talk.. I apologize much more than what is actually required..In spite of being an intelligent and sensible person, I am extremely crazy and childish..

But,I say that I'm an awesome human being, for I am a true person, I say whatever I feel is true, I portray whatever I genuinely am.. If at all I happen to care for a person, I would give my best shot to cheer him up, I would do anything it takes to make a close friend happy.. I value each and every person who has been good to me..I have been really great a person to a lot of self-obsessed and frustrated people and my care for them was rarely reciprocated, I don't give a damn to

them..in fact, I still have faith in friendship, relationships, people and destiny..
Saying that you are awesome does not necessarily mean that you are doing so in an attempt to be happy.. Yes, believing that you are amazing, pampering yourself, flattering yourself can act as stress busters for sure... But, accepting yourself is the first step towards self-love.. Self-love does not always make you happy, for there are things that aren't there in your hands, but it always gives you strength.. It helps you to make sure that you do not become a pessimist, that you do not try to escape and that you do not waste your time being sad for people who are not worth your tears!!

Learn to love yourself, for you are the only person who will always be there for you, throughout the journey of your life.. Self-love is a life-long romance !!

Love yourself, you will fall in love with your life and the world will fall in love with you !!

This blog is dedicated to three guys :-
1. A fellow blogger, a complete stranger and the one n only person I ever talked to online, for he made me recall things about destiny and life that I had temporarily forgotten.. Sincere thanks to him..
2. Someone who has been a close best friend, for the past fourteen years, who always makes me feel how special I am, who is, perhaps, my greatest admirer ever !!

3. A guy who was had been one of the best friends I ever had, though, all of a sudden, he stopped loving himself for some reasons unknown to me..I wish people like him stop despising themselves and learn n realize things I wish to convey to them..

P.S.

Main apni favorite hoon !!

A dialogue from my favorite movie.. this blog was incomplete without the same !!

Cheers !!

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